Dear Davey,
I need your help with something really embarrassing. Because of my work schedule, I need to shower at the gym. My gym has one big open shower for all the men to use. The problem is, I often get hard taking a shower even if Iâm not attracted to the other guys. I donât know what to do!
From,
Luke
Thank you for the very honest question.
Much like you, I have a penis. And also like you, that penis sometimes gets hard. The reasons for this vary, but itâs a pretty long list and it sometimes happens during inopportune moments. And yes, itâs definitely happened in a communal shower.
Itâs interesting that the simple act of getting a boner can elicit such embarrassing and shameful feelings. Especially when getting a boner is often involuntary and a very standard part of the male experience. I sleep. I breathe. I eat. I shit. And sometimes I get hard. When you strip away the layers of guilt, thereâs nothing really notable about a boner.
Youâre not the first guy to get hard in a shower and youâre not the last. Because most of the people in the communal shower will likely have a functioning penis, theyâll probably understand your predicament. If not, thatâs their issue and not yours; donât take on their baggage.
When it comes to sexual orientation, Iâm not sure how you identify. But being a gay man (like myself) in a communal shower with a raging boner adds another layer to the situation. But the truth is, boners donât imply sexual attraction. Sometimes, they just happen. And even if you are sexually attracted to the other guys in the shower, most would probably be flattered. If theyâre not flattered, hopefully they realize that boners arenât dangerous - and that theyâd probably be doing the exact same thing if women were around.
The bottom line is this: Boners just arenât a big deal. No pun intended.
Love,
Davey
P.S. Of course, you can always avoid the shower altogether by working out at home with Davey Waveyâs Bootcamp Workout! It includes three instructional videos that you can use without any gym equipment!















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